The #1 Rule When You Hate Your Manager

By
Hannah Kissel
December 16, 2025
10
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About the episode

Dealing with a consistently inconsistent and incompetent boss often tempts you to throw them under the bus when you finally meet with a senior leader. The real issue requires separating the clean pain of working with a bad boss from the dirty pain of constant rumination and gossiping. In this episode, Hannah explains why expecting your manager to change when they are doing no work is a you problem rather than a them problem. She details how to practice true acceptance and strategically use a VP meeting to discuss market trends and internal processes so you can showcase your leadership capability.

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KEY TAKEAWAYS

  • The clean pain is working with a bad boss but the dirty pain is the rumination and gossiping that creates even more suffering.
  • Expecting your boss to be different when they are doing no work is a you problem and requires a real acceptance of who they are.
  • You must stop going to your manager for things they cannot provide and instead get your needs met from other people.
  • Every conversation with a senior stakeholder is an interview and complaining will only label you as a problem and a headache.
  • You elevate yourself in a VP meeting by talking about industry trends, the macroeconomic situation, and ways the business could improve.

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