You gave 15 years. "Exceeded expectations," every single time. And then one review drops: "not strategic enough." No warning. No conversation. No chance to fix it. If you've been blindsided at a performance review, this episode is for you. I break down exactly what to do when the feedback feels vague and unfair — and how to turn a gut-punch into a documented plan that protects you.

In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Cory Welsh shares her transformative journey through the Life and Work Transformation program, detailing her experiences from level one to level two. She discusses the importance of community, emotional regulation, and effective communication frameworks, particularly nonviolent communication. Cory reflects on the internal changes she has experienced, how she navigates challenges at work and in personal relationships, and the significant impact of the program on her self-awareness and confidence. She emphasizes the value of support from peers and the importance of investing in personal growth during times of transition.

Many professionals experience the fawn trauma response by propping up bosses or family members who treat them poorly and gaslighting themselves into believing the behavior is acceptable. To overcome this learned childhood response, you must use Internal Family Systems therapy to identify the vulnerable exile parts driving your people-pleasing habits. By taking a concerted pause before committing to requests and finding an expander to model firm boundaries, you can do the hard work of detaching from unhealthy dynamics and steer your life in a freer direction.